Did you know that food is just a secondary source of energy?
Think back to a time when you were passionately in love. Everything was exciting. Colors were vivid. You were floating on air, gazing into your lover’s eyes. Your lover’s touch and your shared feelings of exhilaration were enough to sustain you. You forgot about food and were high on life.
Remember a time when you were deeply involved in an exciting project. You believed in what you were doing and felt confident and stimulated. Time seemed to stop. The outside world faded away. You didn’t feel the need to eat. Someone had to come by and remind you.
Imagine children playing outside with friends. At dinnertime the mother reminds the children, “Time to come in and eat.” “No mommy, I’m not hungry yet,” they respond. At the dinner table, the mother feels that her role is to enforce the rules of good nutrition and instructs the children to eat their food. Eventually, the children force down a minimally acceptable amount of food and rush out again to play. At the end of the day, the kids return, exhausted, and go to sleep without thinking about food at all.
As children, we all lived on primary food. The same as when we are deeply in love or working passionately on a project. The fun, excitement and love of daily life has the power to feed us so that food becomes secondary.
Now think of a time when you were depressed, or your self-esteem was low. You were in a state where you were starving for primary food. No amount of regular food would satisfy. You may have even eaten as much as you wanted of regular food, but probably never felt satisfied.
Even in good times we might come home at night and look into the refrigerator for something to eat, when all we really need is a hug or someone to talk to.
Paying attention to the body brings about a certain balance between the mind, body and spirit. When you listen to the body (getting beyond the voice that says “I want a donut”), it tells you what you really need.
This is when primary foods come into play. Primary foods feed us, but they don’t come on a plate.
The more primary food we receive, the less we depend upon secondary foods. The opposite is also true. The more we fill ourselves with secondary foods, the less we are able to receive the primary foods of life.
Elements such as a meaningful spiritual practice, an inspiring career, regular and enjoyable physical activity and honest and open relationships that feed your soul and your hunger for living all constitute primary food.
I was brought up Italian Catholic. We were told to either “eat, you’ll feel better”. Food was something to celebrate with; something to drown your tears in, calm your nerves and soothe the soul.
But the reality was sometimes I really didn’t need the food, what I needed was a hug, someone to listen to me or maybe even a nap!
Raising our vibrations to get in touch with what our body is telling us is good self-care.
As you journey through life, I hope you take the time to explore your primary foods, what they are and how they nourish your soul.
Good food for thought isn’t it?
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